LOVING IS SUBTLE DIALOGUE

 As a women, Your poetic heart and individuality cannot 

                      be satisfied only by biology.

     A woman seeker once asked me: "I have never been loved by a man. Either there is a very strong sexual connection, but without loveliness there is caring, or there is caring and understanding but sex a does not' happen I want much to connect with a man in totality that I am always looking."

      It is one of the oldest problems human beings have faced Our fancy is about pure love, care, concern but human biology a different programmed  It has no concern with your pure love or caring. its concern is to reproduce the species, Biology is purely sexual.

      The effort is going to fail if you want a love which is non-biological.and the problem becomes more complicated. The woman can perhaps wait, because her sexuality is passive sexuality it is spread all over her body It feels immensely joyful to her just to be cuddled, loved and cared. Sex seems to her to be something lower, animalistic.

          But one has to consider man also. His sexuality is localized. One thing: it is not all over his body And second: it haste be aggressive.

                                                     O S H O  SPEAK

1   You may yearn for pure love, care and concern, but your   biology is purely sexual in nature

2   Men and women look at physical intimacy differently it is impatience versus patience

3   What is the art of love? If you are loving and caring, you can create synchronicity in the man also

      

    The Woman’s egg waits inside - it can wait for infinity -but the man's sperm cannot wait that long.

He wants to have the marathon race as quickly as possible. That’s why he pretends romance and all goody-goody things, but his real intention is when it is nine-fifteen...!

      He is constantly looking at the watch. Everything else is good, but the real goal is nine-fifteen.

And the situation is determined very quickly.  Those one million sperms that will be released in one act of physical intimacy will never have such a marathon race it is a question of life and death. Only one out of one million will reach the woman’s egg which is just sitting there.

     Once one sperm has reached the egg, the egg is closed, sometimes it happens that a few friends reach together; and then you have twins....

     Once a man’s sperms are released, he wants to sleep. Now he does not think about romance. Certainly it is tiring for him; it is his energy that is going out,

     The woman, however, is not losing energy she is gaining energy and she could not even feel ecstatic, because it takes some.....But most men remain unconcerned. It is difficult to find a man who will love you and not just as an object of sexual release. It does not mean there will not be any physical intimacy It may be just a small part in a big, romantic, loving, caring atmosphere. It will be difficult for you to find such a man, and meanwhile you will be growing older.

      The most you can do is have your sexual relationship with people who are not romantic in any sense and have your friendship with people who have gone beyond sex.You will either have to make a certain arrangement or you will have to change the man. It is not only the mans responsibility to love you, to give you care and understanding and sex, it is also your responsibility It is a question of a very subtle dialogue.

      If you are loving, caring, you will create a kind of synchronicity in the man also. That is the whole art of love. Nature has missed it or did not bother about it, because its concern was different. But your poetic heart, your individuality is far bigger than your biology It cannot be satisfied only by biology Om Shantih Shantih Shantih, courtesy